published on: 2/28/2003
Contributing Teacher(s): Bridget James
Grade Range: Lower Elementary (K-3), Upper Elementary (4-5)
- Book How To Lose All Your Friends by Nancy Carlson
- Friendship survey
- List of role-play situations
- chalkboard or chart paper
Objective: Students will evaluate and discuss what they think are the most important qualities of a friend and will role-play situations that involve dealing effectively with friends.
- Goal 1.5 comprehend and evaluate written, visual and oral presentations and works
- Goal 2.1 plan and make written, oral and visual presentations for a variety of purposes and audiences
- Goal 2.3 exchange information, questions and ideas while recognizing the perspectives of others
- Communication Arts 6. Participating in formal and informal presentations and discussions of issues and ideas
- Health/Phys Ed 2. Principles and practices of physical and mental health (such as personal health habits, ...)
Time Allowance: Approximately one 45-minute session
Description: Students will evaluate and discuss what they think are the most important qualities of a friend and will role-play situations that involve dealing effectively with friends.
Classroom Component: Implementation Steps
- Read aloud How To Lose All Your Friends.
- Discuss with the class the various ways that the main character acted which caused her to lose her friends (such as being a bully and tattling.) Encourage a discussion among student about why the actions of the character were inappropriate and how she could have acted instead in order to maintain her friendships. Students will share their ideas with the rest of the class.
- Distribute the "Friendship Survey" to students. Each child will read the friendship characteristics and will rank them from 1-10 depending on their personal importance. (A rating of 1 would be most important when he/she is choosing a friend, and a rating of 10 would be the least important.)
- After completing the surveys, the counselor will tally the results on the chalkboard or on chart paper. The counselor will elicit comments and responses about the results of the survey.
- The counselor will provide a role-play situation to pairs and small groups of students. After a short preparation time (2-3 minutes), each situation will be performed for the class. The counselor will stress the importance of acting out the situations in a way a quality of friend would.
- Time permitting, or in the following class session, discuss the role-play situations, including the choices made by the actors.
- Two of your friends recently stopped being friends. You are still friends with both of them.
- You and your best friend are shopping. Your friend decides to steal a candy bar.
- There is a slumber party at your friend''s house. Several girls are ganging up and teasing your friend. You want to be friends with everyone.
- Your friend wants to copy off of your test paper. You studied hard for the test, and he/she did not.
- You notice three of your friends vandalizing a wall of your school. They see you and run away.
- Some of your friends want to ditch school and go hang out at the park. You know you shouldn''t leave school, but they are calling you "chicken", and you don''t want to be the only one left behind.
- You''re at the skating rink with a few of your friends. An older student asks if you and your friends want to go smoke a cigarette. Your friends reluctantly say yes.
Read the following list of qualities. Rank them in order from 1-10 (1 being most important and 10 being least important) as characteristics you look for in a friend.
______ popularity/social status
______ race/cultural background
______ knows how/likes to have fun
______ kindness towards others
______ looks/personal appearance
______ physical fitness/good health
Role Play Situations