Saturday, May 23, 2015

Friendship Fun!

published on: 2/28/2003

Contributing Teacher(s): Bridget James

Grade Range: Lower Elementary (K-3), Upper Elementary (4-5)

Materials Needed:

  • Book How To Lose All Your Friends by Nancy Carlson
  • Friendship survey
  • List of role-play situations
  • chalkboard or chart paper

Objective: Students will evaluate and discuss what they think are the most important qualities of a friend and will role-play situations that involve dealing effectively with friends.

Process Standards:

  • Goal 1.5 comprehend and evaluate written, visual and oral presentations and works
  • Goal 2.1 plan and make written, oral and visual presentations for a variety of purposes and audiences
  • Goal 2.3 exchange information, questions and ideas while recognizing the perspectives of others

Content Standards:

  • Communication Arts 6. Participating in formal and informal presentations and discussions of issues and ideas
  • Health/Phys Ed 2. Principles and practices of physical and mental health (such as personal health habits, ...)

    Time Allowance: Approximately one 45-minute session

    Description: Students will evaluate and discuss what they think are the most important qualities of a friend and will role-play situations that involve dealing effectively with friends.

    Classroom Component: Implementation Steps

  • Read aloud How To Lose All Your Friends.
  • Discuss with the class the various ways that the main character acted which caused her to lose her friends (such as being a bully and tattling.) Encourage a discussion among student about why the actions of the character were inappropriate and how she could have acted instead in order to maintain her friendships. Students will share their ideas with the rest of the class.
  • Distribute the "Friendship Survey" to students. Each child will read the friendship characteristics and will rank them from 1-10 depending on their personal importance. (A rating of 1 would be most important when he/she is choosing a friend, and a rating of 10 would be the least important.)
  • After completing the surveys, the counselor will tally the results on the chalkboard or on chart paper. The counselor will elicit comments and responses about the results of the survey.
  • The counselor will provide a role-play situation to pairs and small groups of students. After a short preparation time (2-3 minutes), each situation will be performed for the class. The counselor will stress the importance of acting out the situations in a way a quality of friend would.
  • Time permitting, or in the following class session, discuss the role-play situations, including the choices made by the actors.
  • Friendship Survey


    Read the following list of qualities. Rank them in order from 1-10 (1 being most important and 10 being least important) as characteristics you look for in a friend.


    ______ honesty

    ______ popularity/social status

    ______ race/cultural background

    ______ knows how/likes to have fun

    ______ kindness towards others

    ______ intelligence

    ______ loyalty

    ______ interests/hobbies

    ______ looks/personal appearance

    ______ physical fitness/good health

    Role Play Situations


  • Two of your friends recently stopped being friends. You are still friends with both of them.

  • You and your best friend are shopping. Your friend decides to steal a candy bar.

  • There is a slumber party at your friend''s house. Several girls are ganging up and teasing your friend. You want to be friends with everyone.

  • Your friend wants to copy off of your test paper. You studied hard for the test, and he/she did not.

  • You notice three of your friends vandalizing a wall of your school. They see you and run away.

  • Some of your friends want to ditch school and go hang out at the park. You know you shouldn''t leave school, but they are calling you "chicken", and you don''t want to be the only one left behind.

  • You''re at the skating rink with a few of your friends. An older student asks if you and your friends want to go smoke a cigarette. Your friends reluctantly say yes.
  • For additional information contact :
    Bridget James
    Sterling Elem.
    Warrensburg R-VI
    (660) 747-7478

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